I am in love with blogging!
In case you missed it I entered a contest over the weekend. The contest was from one of my new favorite blogs Dr. Psych Mom. She also has a Facebook page found here. Readers were asked to send in their best answer to this question.
Oh.My.Gah…I was like a kid on Christmas morning when I saw my name as the winner on her blog! I was stoked!!
My first thought was, “Holy shit that’s my name!!!” I’ve been blogging for a little less than 2 months now, so I have never submitted anything like this before. I was hoping to win, but I figured there were probably people out there that had more experience than me. People with more writing experience, more Mommy experience, etc…
We have two things we talk about a lot in our family.
1. Everyone has their own opinion.
2. It’s okay to be different.
My first and fourth sons were born with Bilateral Clubfeet. The oldest is 7, so we have had countless talks about being different and I am sure we’ll have many more.
I encourage my boys to always voice their opinion even if it differs from others. I am still working on this myself.
As I read a few opposing views today I got a little discouraged. They were not being disrespectful, just simply stating their own opinions. Suddenly it hit me, why am I getting discouraged because people are doing what they should be doing? If I don’t agree I just sit back and think about it. I don’t have the balls to say anything most of the time. I do the opposite of what I teach my children to do.
So, I am thankful for those ballsy people out there that let their opinions be known in a respectful way.
Here are a few of my responses to a couple of opposing views.
In all three suggestions there was time for just the two of them. She mentioned her husband talking about other parents staying out all night or going on a couples vacation. I don’t know of any other parents doing either weekly.
There are so many unknowns in her issue. It’s not like we had an hour therapy session and we heard both sides. Here are a list of my “what ifs”:
What if they can’t afford a babysitter?
What if she is battling postpartum depression and has some mommy guilt?
What if he isn’t as involved as he should be?
What if they are a Military family and they don’t have family around?
I want to say again, what works for some families may not work for others. Some spouses put each other first, some put their children first. I mentioned in my first response, communication is key. They have to find what works for them and they both have to be open to compromise.
Thanks for reading and thanks for the different perspectives!